The death of a parent can be very difficult on a child. A number of factors can help determine if the child is able to cope with the loss well or poorly. The authors are from Columbia University and Brooklyn and Kings County Hospital in New York.
Factor |
Promote Coping |
Impede Coping |
concurrent life events |
stable |
stressful |
socioeconomic status |
higher |
low |
relationship with surviving parent caregiver |
open and positive |
negative or nonsupportive |
relationship with parent who died |
good |
poor |
functioning of surviving parent or caregiver |
capable |
impaired |
pre-existing mental health of surviving parent or caregiver |
healthy |
mental illness |
pre-existing mental health in child |
healthy |
mental illness |
circumstances of parent's death |
positive in some way |
violent, traumatic and disturbing |
child's self-esteem |
high |
low |
personal resources (intellectual and social abilities) |
competent |
impaired |
attitude of peers and adults in life |
accepting and caring |
rejection, negative |
opportunity to express feelings |
accepted and validated |
rejected, belittled |
locus of control |
internal, religious |
external |